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There's this guy that I have been friends with on Facebook for some time now. We have a decent amount of mutual friends and he just seems interesting as hell, and I kind of developed a little crush on him.
I finally got the courage to DM him and I said, "I'd love to get the chance to know you." He responded to me by saying, "I'm not looking to get into a relationship right now." Honestly, I think that was just his way of being nice and saying that he was not interested in me. I didn't take it hard at first, but then...
I log on Facebook and I see he made a post that said, "I want to go on a little date soon." Now, as much as I want to say it didn't bother me, I have to admit that I am a little hurt. Should I reach back out to him and let him know he offended me or let it go?
Was my shot blocked?
First things first, do not reach out to him again!
This is probably your first time putting yourself out there, and your ego got a little bit bruised, that's okay. But, brush yourself off! You are not going to be everyone's type, just because they are yours.
The key is building self confidence! When you are full of self-confidence, self-worth, and self-love, there's no such thing as rejection! If a guy doesn't see how brightly your star shines, it's not your job to show him... pay him in dust! By the time he realizes he had the chance at an amazing woman, you'll already be on to the next!
Shooting your shot is putting yourself out there, it's giving the guy a chance at a queen and if he's not interested, he's doing you a favor! Remember that!
Keep shooting, sis! You will get your guy!
Ciao for now,